Marriage and blah accompanied

This may seem like a tirade but upfront I have to say it is not.

What are deciding factors when you finally think you have zeroed in on someone to get married to? "How settled is the guy?" a euphemism for the money languishing in his bank acocunt. "How attracted you are to him?" another crutch for how good looking he is? "Is it a love marriage or arranged?" Subtext - are you settling for a guy your parents picked out or did you get someone on your own?

Who today admits that yes I am marrying that guy for his money. Nobody. Are you so ashamed to be materialistic that you cannot admit it?

Women marry for many reasons and unfortunately fewer out of those "married" women, marry for love. They are perhaps, you think, a lucky few but try if you can to look closely and you can smell the pale odour of compromise. There, of course, is nothing wrong with compromise. But you have to ballsy enough to admit that yes I might be making a compromise (coming down from my high horse of expectations) and am willing to make a relationship ( a marriage in this case) work. At least give it a full shot.

You have no right to judge women who you think are compromising. They are women who have realised that to expect a perfect man is a fallacy (as is a perfect women am sure) so look for the real reasons you are keen to get married for and then move on. Even if you cannot, don't still be judgemental. Loneliness can be worse than any illness and no amount of money can be friendly and conversational.

Don't be childish in your expectations and be honest about what you are looking for. Are you sure you want a guy who makes a joke of every utterance? Do you always want to be the one he makes his pals laugh at? ("sense of humour and all"?).

If you have been lucky, like some of my friends, to find rich, single (and straight I might add), be honest enough to say that money was a big deciding factor and stop giving cliches like "sustenance for two meals will also keep me happy " and "money does not matter".

Its difficult being a girl who speaks her mind, in a male dominated society, such as it is. Make sure at least that the opinion you are shouting yourself hoarse with, is at least your own opinion.